Is my child overweight or obese?

In this third interview Is my child overweight or obese? 

Deb Blakey from Kids Dig Food, and I explore whether you should be worried about your child’s weight, and if your child is overweight you’ll learn what is helpful and what isn’t helpful in supporting your child to have a healthy body weight.  Our focus is to provide you with information and ideas so you can make the right choices for your family. Click here to listen

In this interview you’ll learn about:

Your parenting approach can impact whether your child is more likely to be bullied.

As a parent you’re a powerful role-model for your child and your parenting approach can have a significant impact on your child’s self-esteem, resilience and resourcefulness. In fact you might be surprised to know that your parenting approach can have a positive or a negative impact on whether your child is more likely to be bullied or not.

In a large 2013 review study which included a sample of 208,000 children ages 4-25 from research studies conducted 1970-2012, they found that children are more likely to bully or be bullied if they have harsh parents who role model anti-social behaviour and where there are low levels of communication between parents & children with minimal parental supervision. SOURCE: Lereya, Muntha and Wolke (2013) Parenting Behaviour and the risk of becoming a victim and a bully/victim: A meta-analysis study.

What would you do if you found out your child was being bullied?

Were you bullied as a child? If so, then you know how frightening it can be. As a parent, you want to do everything you can to protect your children from bullies so they never have to experience that horrible feeling of being picked on, laughed at, excluded or physically harmed.

If you found out that child is being bullied, would you know what to do?

If you’re like most parents you’d probably say one or more of the following things to your child:

Children who are being bullied often don’t tell their parents

The research on bullying highlights the need for parents to be vigilant when it comes to their children and bullying as many children do not tell their parents they’re being bullied.

As a loving parent you might be thinking. Why wouldn’t my child tell me?” (64% of bullied children do not report it)*

There are many reasons children don’t tell their parents including:

Do you know the difference between bullying and playful fun?

The news is filled with stories on bullying in schools, bullying in the workplace and with the increased use of technology, cyber bullying can be a constant, never-ending and relentless attack on your child. While some acts are clearly bullying – like a child regularly, willfully, and intentionally physically hurting another child - other acts are not as easy to recognise as bullying.

Do you know the difference between bullying and kids just having some harmless fun together? As a loving parent it’s important for to know the distinction so you can help your child navigate life’s challenges. Children need to be able to protect themselves from bullies and also be able to manage light-hearted play without it causing them to feel overwhelmed by hurt or stress.

Empowering your child: from vulnerable baby to capable person

Human babies are among the most vulnerable living beings. Left alone, they die in a matter of hours or days at most. Babies depend on their carers for their physical, emotional and psychological wellbeing and how they experience their early years can have a significant impact on how they live their whole life.

When our son Cameron was born, I felt vulnerable and overwhelmed by the responsibility of raising another human being. What did I know about his nurturing his physical, psychological and emotional development? As a parent, thinking about how I might ‘wreck’ him was really scary.

Developing your Child's self esteem and self confidence.

One of the key life skill areas of the Win Win Parenting program is "Personal Power". The aim is to empower parents with the knowledge and skills to help their children develop their personal power, become resilient and fly through life. Personal power is not about physical strength, it’s about your child’s inner strength, their psychological strength.  Personal power is not about overpowering others, it’s about helping a child feel good inside and secure about who they are so they don’t feel the need to overpower or be like anyone else. In this sense, every parent wants their child to feel good about themselves, value their own uniqueness and have personal power, right?

So what exactly is Personal Power? What does it mean to have Personal Power? Today's blog is all about understanding three fundamental aspects of Personal Power: self esteem, self confidence and self efficacy and how this can help you to raise psychologically and physically healthy children.

Does your child know the benefits and the harms of technology?

We all know what it can be like when our child has an emotional meltdown – and it can happen over the littlest thing – like the toast being cut the wrong way!  What about the supermarket meltdown when you say “no” to the junk food or latest toy! OR when you ask the kids to come off the technology!

Excessive screen use can cause physical, social and psychological harms to your children

Whether it is a phone, tablet, TV or computer - technology is part of most adults’ everyday life. And it is not uncommon for a parent to pass a phone or tablet to a child to keep her amused so they can finish a task. The question is “when can technology safely be part of our children’s lives”?

True or false ? If my children don’t access technology they’ll fall behind.

Do you believe that limiting your child’s access to technology might put them behind other children who access technology regularly? If so what are you basing this on – a feeling or evidence? Have you come across research studies that have shown that children who have restricted access to technology have physical, social or psychological delays?  No? Nor have I. 

Do you know the recommended guidelines for children’s safe use of technology?

Many parents struggle to get their children off technology and feel unsure about how much time on technology is good for their kids. Many parents have the feeling that their kids spend too much time but don’t know how many hours their kids actually spend on technology and the recommended guidelines for safe use.

How your praise and criticisms can harm your child’s self-esteem.

Are you the kind of parent who is a fabulous cheerleader for your child? Are you the first one to say:

  • “You’re amazing”
  • “What a great job you did” (regardless of whether they did or didn’t!) 
  • “You are the best/smartest/most sporty/talented kid ever”
Understanding the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence

Did you know that self-esteem and self-confidence are NOT the same even though most people use the words interchangeably? OK, let’s put it to the test.  Right now, ask yourself the question – “What is the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence?” and then answer it. If you can’t think of any major differences then you will find this video helpful.
We all know that every parents wants their child to have healthy self-esteem. No parent says I’d like a child with low self-esteem. BUT, when we confuse self-esteem and self-confidence in our parenting we can inadvertently hurt our child’s self-esteem. 

Did you know? Feeling guilty about your parenting makes you a worse parent.

Parents often feel guilty about their parenting. Perhaps you feel that too? Mums and dads often feel guilty about working long hours and not spending enough time with the kids, being short tempered and yelling a lot or feeling helpless when your children are having a hard time with friends or school. 

Did you know? If you scream at your kids, they’re more likely to scream at you and others. Calmer parent, calmer child.

As a parent you’re a powerful role-model for your child. Babies are born with millions of ‘mirror’ neurons so they can mirror and mimic what they see and hear in the world. Perhaps you’ve cringed when you’ve accidently used an inappropriate word in front of your child and they’ve repeated it back to you or in front of others. Embarrassing right?